Loneliness is a crushing feeling. It can be really difficult when you feel that you have nobody to experience the highs and lows of life with. It can be easy to blame yourself for your loneliness or worry that you are lonely because there is something wrong with you, but this is not the case. Loneliness is very common, and many people feel lonely at some point in their lives.
There is a sure difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone can be brilliant because it allows us to recharge our batteries and concentrate on the things we enjoy. Loneliness however, is an empty aching feeling, where we feel that we want to connect with others but we struggle to.
It is important that we don’t blame ourselves for feeling lonely. Sometimes events happen in our lives that cause us to isolate ourselves from others, and sometimes people can walk out of our lives unexpectedly. Sometimes a lack of self-confidence might make us avoid putting ourselves out there, or health conditions like anxiety can cause us to isolate ourselves and worry about interacting with others.
When I am struggling with feelings of loneliness, I find it useful to distract myself with studying, music, and hobbies. Joining a group to meet like-minded people is a good step to take, but it is also a very daunting one if you feel you are not ready for it, or you struggle to trust others and open up to them. If you are experiencing loneliness, it is helpful to remember that the way you are feeling now is temporary, there are steps you can take to change things, and it doesn’t have to be this way forever.
The mind website has some useful information about loneliness and ways to manage it: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/loneliness/#.XdF51Ff7TIU
This article is also a brilliant read for relatable real-life stories and statistics about loneliness: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-45561334